Everyone who has ever broken up with someone knows the heartache that it can cause.   What can make it even worse is if you still really care about the other person and recognize that the breakup was probably the wrong thing to do.   Well, cheer up because most experts will tell you that unless there were super negatives involved – like physical abuse – there’s a good chance that you can get your ex back.

To get your ex back you must be willing to put in the significant amount of time and effort that this process will undoubtedly require. Getting your ex girlfriend back will not be an easy process.

If you’re a guy and your ex broke it off, it was probably because you weren’t fulfilling her emotional needs. So, the key to most women’s hearts is to be able to demonstrate that you have changed and that you’ll be able to deal with her emotional needs.

First you will need to make contact but don’t do that until you’ve formulated a plan. There may already be other men lining up so be sure to contact her as soon as you think is appropriate. Methods of contact may be via a text message, a phone call or even an e-mail.

Each time you talk to or see your ex girlfriend, it is important to be attentive and listen to what she has to say. This will serve two purposes; the first being to show her that you do respect and acknowledge what she has to say (this is very important in making a female feel wanted and fulfilling her emotional desires). The second purpose it serves is in enabling you to read between the lines and to pick up any non-verbal cues she may give.

You first contacts and meetings should be innocent and harmless – not demanding. Ensure you do this in a subtle manner, and do not lay all your cards on the table at once, as this will only leave you vulnerable and at risk of being hurt.

Be sure to flatter her and tell her that she looks fantastic. To get ex back you have to pull out all the stops and really go for it.

During your time apart, and even when you enter back into a relationship, it is important to stay in shape. If you previously let yourself go, use this opportunity to get back into shape. Nothing will catch her attention more quickly than seeing you looking better than ever.

Finally, you should make every effort to ensure that the changes you’ve made in areas of concern to her are things that you can make permanent.  That way you’ll double your chances of having your ex back.